Introducing Love Forensic™
– The Science of Understanding Matters of the Heart
LOVE has always been the greatest mystery of the human heart. It makes us dream, it makes us despair – and sometimes, it leaves us wondering why something so beautiful can also be so complicated.
As a forensic psychologist, I have spent years studying human emotions, behaviour, and the way people connect, hurt, and heal. And through those years, one truth has stood out clearly – every relationship leaves behind emotional evidence.
These traces – in our words, habits, reactions, and choices – tell us more about love than we often dare to admit.
This is what Love Forensic™ is all about: understanding the science behind emotions and learning how to investigate our feelings with honesty and empathy, not judgment or blame.
Why ‘Forensic’?
When people hear the word forensic, they think of crime scenes, fingerprints, or investigations. But forensic science is simply the search for truth through evidence.
In the same way, Love Forensic™ helps us look at love through evidence – emotional clues, behavioural patterns, and the psychology behind human connection.
It’s about asking questions like:
•Why do we fall for the same kind of person again and again?
•Why does love sometimes turn into pain?
•Why is it so hard to forgive or to walk away?
In every story of love, there are patterns. And where there are patterns, there are answers – if we know how to read the evidence.
The Purpose of This Column
This weekly column is not about theories or romantic ideals. It’s about real life, real emotions, and real solutions – grounded in psychology and guided by compassion.
Each week, I will bring you insights drawn from real human experiences – lessons from therapy rooms, conversations, and the quiet corners of the human mind.
We will talk about love, heartbreak, forgiveness, attraction, family, and the unspoken needs that shape the way we love.
My aim is simple:
To help readers understand themselves and the people they care about – with greater clarity, awareness, and emotional maturity.
Love can be mysterious, but it doesn’t have to be confusing.
When we learn to see love through a forensic lens, we stop reacting – and start understanding.
Who Is Dr Benfadzil?
I am a Forensic Psychologist and Founder of Benfadzil Academy, specialising in human behaviour, emotional wellbeing, and hypnotherapy for mental and Emotional healing.
Over the years, I have trained thousands of individuals – from professionals and educators to couples and youth – to understand the mind, regulate emotions, and rebuild confidence.
The Love Forensic™ approach grew out of that experience.
It combines scientific understanding with human warmth – turning love from a mystery into something we can examine, learn from, and grow through.
This column is an extension of that mission: to share practical wisdom that heals, empowers, and enlightens.
Why Now?
We live in a time when relationships are changing faster than ever. Social media, distance, and pressure have made connection both easier and more fragile.
Many people struggle silently – not because they don’t love enough, but because they don’t understand the emotional mechanics behind love.
The Love Forensic™ column will be a safe, reflective space where readers can slow down and think – to understand the “why” behind what they feel, and the “how” behind what they do.
Every Saturday, I’ll help you decode a piece of the human heart – one insight at a time.
What to Expect Each Week
Each edition of Love Forensic™ will follow a simple rhythm:
1.The Case: A common emotional issue or pattern.
2.The Evidence: What psychology tells us about why it happens.
3.The Analysis: How we can respond, grow, or heal from it.
4.Reflection: A short takeaway to guide you through the week.
Topics will include:
•How we repeat emotional patterns without realising it
•Why love sometimes turns into pain
•The psychology of forgiveness
•How to communicate when words hurt
•Emotional intelligence between men and women
A Final Thought
In Love Forensic™, we will not judge love – we will study it.
We will look at the hidden emotions, the silent fears, and the fragile hopes that shape every human connection.
Because only when we understand the evidence, can we truly heal the heart.
Love is not blind – it is simply untrained to see.
This column is where we learn to see, together.
Next Week in Love Forensic™: ‘Why We Repeat the Same Love Mistakes’
Why do some hearts fall for the same story in a different body?
Next week, we explore the emotional blueprints that make us chase familiar patterns – and how to finally break free.
Stay with Love Forensic™ as we begin the journey: Pattern → Awareness → Protection.
Dr Benfadzil Mohd Salleh is a senior practitioner and educator in the fields of forensic psychology, hypnotherapy, and behavioural studies. He is also consultant and founder of Benfadzil Academy.
The views expressed here are his own and do not necessarily reflect those of Sarawak Tribune. He can be reached at drbenfadzil@gmail.com.
