KUCHING: As Datuk Patinggi Tan Sri Abang Johari Tun Openg marked his ninth anniversary at the helm of Sarawak’s administration, the milestone carried a deeper and more personal meaning this year — one shaped by absence.
Speaking during the townhall session on Tuesday night (Jan 13), Abang Johari shared a heartfelt reflection on how this year’s anniversary felt different, as his late wife, who had accompanied him throughout much of his leadership journey, was no longer by his side.
He recalled that during previous editions of the townhall and official functions, his wife would be present, offering quiet support and guidance.
This year, however, he was accompanied by his daughter in her place.
“Earlier today, I mentioned that this year’s townhall session is different because my wife is no longer here. However, my daughter is with me, and she knows how to look after me,” he said.
Drawing from a personal memory, Abang Johari recounted an incident from an official dinner where he was attending as the guest of honour.
After being served dessert, he stood up and left, assuming the dinner had concluded.
“When we got into the car, my late wife smiled at me and gently reminded me to look at the other tables. She said even though we had been served dessert, the other guests had not.
“She pointed out to me that when the guest of honour stands up, others will follow, and they may not get the chance to enjoy or have their dessert. She reminded me to be more observant of those around me,” he said.
Abang Johari described the moment as a lasting lesson in leadership and humility — one that continues to guide him today.
“That taught me to always observe first. Until today, I still look at all the tables before leaving.
“My late wife was highly observant and often offered guidance in subtle but meaningful ways,” he said.
Reflecting on their 48 years of marriage, Abang Johari said the absence is most deeply felt in simple and everyday moments such as meals they once shared sitting across from one another.
Despite her passing, he said her presence remains close.
“Until today, if I have time, every Friday before work, I will visit her grave. Although she is no longer here, her spirit and guidance continue to accompany me,” he added.
