Stephanie Goh, a proud mother of four and vice president of the Kuching Autistic Association is a passionate advocate of autism awareness.
Raising her 20-year-old son, Joshua Nagai, who has autism, has shaped her parenting with unmatched patience, flexibility, and a deep appreciation for every milestone.
For this 54-year-old mother, every day is Autism Awareness Day — a constant reminder to push for inclusion, understanding, and equal opportunities for all children.
In this heartfelt interview, she shares the highs and lows of her journey, offering a powerful message to fellow parents and the community: “We may do it differently, but we love our children just the same.”
What does Autism Awareness Day mean to you as a mother?
Autism Awareness Day is a reminder to advocate for autism every day. For us, it’s not just one day but an ongoing commitment. We push for inclusion and understanding in every interaction and ensure that people with autism are given the same opportunities as everyone else.
How has being a parent to an autistic child shaped your parenting style?
It has taught me to be more flexible and patient. Every milestone, no matter how small, is a victory. Parenting an autistic child requires adjusting expectations and appreciating each step, no matter how different it may seem from what society expects.
What’s one misconception about mothers of autistic children you’d like to correct?

A common misconception is that we need sympathy. In truth, our children show us the world in a beautiful, different way. Joshua has taught me to appreciate the small things and focus on his strengths, rather than the challenges he faces.
What kind of support has been most helpful for you as a parent?
Inclusion, understanding, and a strong support system have been essential. It’s vital to have a community that accepts my child for who he is. The support of family, friends, and professionals who understand autism has made a huge difference in Joshua’s life.
How do you navigate sensory challenges while parenting?
Through trial and error, we’ve learned what triggers Joshua’s sensitivities. We avoid these triggers when we can and give him space to explore the world in a safe way. Over the years, we’ve learned how to create an environment where he feels comfortable and supported.
What’s one thing you wish more people understood about parents of autistic children?
We love and support our children just like any other parents. Our journey may look different, but the love is the same. We’re committed to supporting our children and giving them every chance to succeed, just as any parent would.
How do you advocate for both yourself and your child?
I advocate for Joshua by speaking up, joining awareness movements, and ensuring he gets the opportunities he deserves. It’s about making sure that children like him are seen, heard, and given the chance to succeed in life.
What’s your favourite part of being a mother?
Watching my son achieve something he’s worked hard for. Whether it’s a small step or a major milestone, seeing him succeed fills me with pride and joy.
What’s one piece of advice you’d give to other parents raising autistic children?
Focus on your child’s strengths and never compare. Every child’s journey is different, and it’s important to celebrate what makes your child unique. And above all, never give up on them.
How can people better support parents of autistic children in their communities?
By including us and educating themselves about autism. Providing the same opportunities for our children as others will help create an inclusive environment where everyone can thrive.